5 Tips for Helping Your Children Choose (and keep) Good Friends
Friendships can be difficult, even for adults and for children, it can be difficult to navigate friendships that can sometimes seem ever changing and evolving due to moves, changing activities, changing schools, and sometimes just friendship “break-ups”.

1. Teach and model good friendship skills to your children by: teaching them the importance of sharing; being a good sport if they lose; the importance of providing a listening ear; sticking up for their friend when needed; and the value of loyalty and knowing that there can be ups and downs in friendships.
2. The value of forgiveness, which does not always mean the friendship can or should continue. Sometimes, with repeat offenders, or abusive friendships, it can be important to forgive, but possibly equally important to “move on” if the friend continues mean or unacceptable behaviour. Your child does not need to be a doormat.
3. Fostering good self-esteem is an important role parents and caregivers can play. Reminding your child that they are truly special, unique, have their own special gifts and talents, and that they are loved can go a long way in your child not feeling they have to stay in unhealthy friendships.
4. Meeting the parents or caregivers of your child’s friends can also be a very important way to monitor your childs’ safety. As a psychotherapist, I have unfortunately heard stories whereby a child was sexually assaulted, witnessed violence or substance abuse, or have been injured due to negligence, while at a visit or a sleepover at a friend’s house. Don’t feel bad about “vetting” another parent prior to allowing an unsupervised visit. I generally aim to have a visit with both the child and at least one parent before considering this. I tend to be the parent that prefers to have my children’s friends come to our home, but I also just enjoy hosting in general.
5. ASK your kids about their friends. It is a great way to improve your relationship with your kids in general, by being genuinely interested in what is going on in their friendships. As a therapist, I always ask my child and adolescent clients about their friendships, as this is a very important part of their life. Most of the time, when it feels more like genuine interest, rather than an interrogation, kids are very happy to share this part of their life.

Sharing what you value about your own friendships and what qualities you feel are important to look for in a friend can also be a very valuable teaching tool, and your kids will likely appreciate you taking an interest in this important part of their life.

5 Tips to Surviving Disney (and other busy amusement/theme parks)
Theme parks can be so much fun and the anticipation of these holidays is part of the fun and excitement. You've planned, spent a great deal of time and money to make it happen, and the time has finally come...

We just came back from a trip to Orlando Florida, where we visited SeaWorld and DisneyWorld. Going to amusement parks can be among the best experiences and can create amazing family memories. However, there can also be the “dark side” of amusement parks which includes: long line-ups (for the bathroom (especially the women’s bathroom), for food, for rides, for shows, for asking a question, to get your bags through security, sometimes just trying to get to another part of the park, to get into the park, to get out of the park…). And just crowds in general…
Strategies to have the best day

1. Pack your patience – having a good attitude and realizing that you will likely be waiting in lines before you go can help to have realistic expectations going in. If you do not like crowds, then perhaps just avoiding theme parks in the first place may be your best bet because even in the off-peak season, there can still be lines. Personal space can sometimes be at a premium as there are still people that believe that if they stand 1 inch behind you through the entire line, that they will somehow get on the ride faster, so if you are claustrophobic, you may have to be strategic in having a personal “bubble” around you. I often bring a backpack to the park for the day to put snacks, a light coat and water in, and putting the backpack behind you as you go through the line can be a strategy to have some personal space. Also, be prepared for line-jumpers – it happens at every park – I always tell my children that when we see a line, to add 10% to the time wait posted, so we always allow for this. It happens at every park and unless the parks crack down on this, it will continue to happen. Chatting with people around you can be a great way to pass the time – my family and I have met so many interesting people just by being friendly, and this can include getting tips and strategies on how to get the most out of your day.
2. Go in the off-peak season – there can be incentives and price reductions for going in off-peak. There are numerous websites that can help you get the best deal.
3. Be aware of people using their strollers as weapons. I have seen parents running full tilt to get into a line or to try to catch a show using their stroller basically as a battering ram with complete disregard as to the safety of anyone else in the park. I am always watchful of this and I have talked to park staff members who have told me they have been injured and have seen patrons injured as well because of this. Disney will be reducing the allowable size of stroller beginning May 1, 2019, which likely will help this. Avoiding injury will definitely add to a good day at the park.
   
4. Food and drinks can be expensive. However, most parks do not charge for ice water and the ice is usually filtered making it just as good as the bottled water in many places. Sharing a meal can be a good way to go and bringing in a few emergency snacks such as granola bars can also be helpful. It is always a good plan to bring in your own refillable water bottle and many parks now have refill stations in order to provide good customer service as well as being environmentally friendly.
5. Have a budget. It is important to plan this ahead of time and to let your children know what the budget is. This does not mean they have to forego playing midway games or getting a souvenir, but that they might not be able to get/do both.

Planning ahead and being aware of some of the downsides of theme parks can help you to enjoy your time as much as possible so that most of your memories will be good ones.